Woman's
Own: December 2
2002
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This week, Anne looks at
the increasing number of
men opting for the
scalpel. Has male
vanity finally gone too
far?
Men and plastic
surgery
We're all getting pretty
used to the debate among
women about plastic
surgery. But I had
to stifle a hypocritical
chortle when I read about
Mike (see page 13),
the 56 year old Yorkshire
man who's had his eyelids
done and could soon be
heading for a facelift.
Male vanity, I
sniggered! Then I
realised that the only two
of my friends who've had
plastic surgery are
men.
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One is a good mate who
used to be my personal
trainer. He's tall,
gorgeous, very
heterosexual and has had
exactly the same operation
as Mike - a reduction of
the droopiness around the
eyelids. When he
announced he was having
the op, I told him he was
mad. His eyes looked
fine to me. But he
was insistent, saying he
worked in an industry
where looks were
important. He could
mould his body into that
of an Olympic athlete, but
- without a surgeon - he
couldn't do anything about
his face. Many of
his women friends, his
girlfriend included, tried
to talk him out of it.
Yet most of us would
have defended our own
rights to visit a plastic
surgeon. So why
couldn't we accept that
men have vanities too?
Why should it only
be a woman's prerogative?
And yet, isn't there
something a little off
about men who spend too
long in the
bathroom?
I went to visit my friend
at his home, a week later.
His head was twice
its usual size and he was
still drinking through a
straw. For the first
time, I realised what a
dangerous and painful
business cosmetic surgery
can be. I wish I
could tell you that, a
couple of months later, he
looked years younger but
in fact, I never did see
the difference.
Except in his
demeanour. Suddenly
he was brighter, more
confident and his career
took off. His
girlfriend said their sex
life got a terrific boost.
He felt as though he
looked so much better that
life did indeed improve,
even if cynics like me
couldn't see any
transformation.
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My other male friend has
liposuction, which reduced
his waistline and made him
a must-have party guest,
because he'll tell you
anything you've ever
wanted to know about the
whole process - right down
to the goriest
details!
Mike says his mum's
initial reaction was, 'Be
careful, I raised you to
be a man'. So that's
what we're all scared of!
My mother reminded
me that there was a
similar outcry when
after-shaves first came on
the market. Real men
wouldn't wear them.
British men made do
with soap and water, then
an army of US soldiers
were posted over here in
the war - and a whole
generation of British
girls learned that men
could smell nice and still
be macho.
As for me, I still love
Robert Redford, even
though his craggy face now
looks more sculpted.
He insists its all
natural and the secret is
surely subtlety. And
never get hooked on the
experience. Those
who do, end up with such
fixed smiles that they
can't even laugh at
themselves!
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Linda
and Mike didn't leave their hotel room for five days. But
any moans coming from behind the door were caused by pain, not passion.
The couple were recovering from his-and-hers plastic surgery in Zagreb, Croatia. Linda laughingly admits they made a sorry sight. "I had
to suck my food through a straw
and the dressings round my mouth looked like a goatee," she says
'Mike
had two black eyes peering out from the sterilised strips covering his
stitches. We ordered room service and watched TV, but I did get fe
d up listening to Mike whingeing. I couldn't talk very well, b
ut I wanted to tell him. Just put up and shut up"
It was Mike's
first time under the knife -an operation to remove the bags under his eyes
and reduce the droopiness over his lids. But Linda's no stranger
to surgery. She had a face lift three years ago. and now has reg
ular maintenance work costing thousands of pounds - Botox injections in
her forehead and around her eyes, Perlane in her nose-to-mouth lines, and
laser treatment to reduce the fine lines around her eyes.
When Mike
had his eye operation in September, Linda took the opportunity to have
dermabrasion - where the skin surface is removed to its deeper layers - on
the fine lines around her top lip and mouth
The couple, who run their
own cosmetic surgery advisory service, admit they were their own guinea
pigs - sampling Croatian surgery before recommending it to others
People
are suspicious of surgery in Eastern European countries, says Linda "
But this surgeon is first-rate, his facilities are scrupulously clean and
the standard of hotel service is better than in Britain.'
Mike's
surgery cost £I 500-£1,000 less than he would have paid in the UK. L
inda also reckons she saved £1,000 on her dermabrasion, which only
cost £200
'I had a local anaesthetic, so it didn't hurt at all'.
says Linda. 'It left like a shoe cleaner buffing my skin.
My face was sore afterwards and the scabs were disgusting, but five days
later, I could put concealer on and go out for the rest of our 12-day
stay'
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Mike
says he was very nervous before his surgery. Awake, but anaesthet
ised during the two-hour operation he says, 'I could feel something being
drawn across my top eyelid that felt like a pencil - I guess that was the
scalpel. It's made me more appreciative of what Linda endured. My surgery is a fraction
of what she had'
You
couldn't find a more unlikely candidate for plastic surgery. Mike
is a plain-speaking Yorkshireman. He's 56, grey haired and favours t
weed jackets
Since
Linda's surgery, Mike has found himself drawn into a world he never knew
existed. By August 2000, Linda had quit her jobs as a lawyer and special constable
to concentrate on setting up an advisory
website for anyone considering surgery. In January 2001, Mike
also decided to leave his job as a quality controller in a factory
manufacturing aircraft parts,to join Linda's business
'I
never thought I'd be sitting here talking about cosmetic surgery' says
Mike. who's been married to Linda for seven years. I still
get uncomfortable talking about it. But most of my friends are in the plastic surgery business,
while my old friends have receded from my life.'
'My
background is very northern, very male. When my mum heard I was goin
g to work with Linda she was horrified. Her first reaction was,
'Oh Michael be careful, I brought you up as a man". Often, when we g
o to events, I'm the only man dressed as a man - you meet a lot of
transvestites and transsexuals in this business
Linda, now 48
underwent her first operation in August 1999. She had upper and lower eyelid reduction,
and a lower facelift to get rid of the saggy skin under her chin.
She decided to go for it following an incident at her sister Debbie's
wedding, when someone asked if Linda was the bride's mum. I was re
ally upset,' recalls Linda, I'd spent a fortune on looking good.
I'd had my hair dyed and cut, I'd bought a nice suit and had a fortnights
worth of beauty treatments.'
She didn't tell Mike her plans u
ntil she'd chosen the surgeon He was very worried, but I just said. "It's
my face and I'm doing it, so get used to the idea" she says
The
couple had started building a new house after their former home developed
a subsidence problem and had to be demolished. Linda used £
4,800 from their building funds to pay for her surgery. Compared to
the cost of our house, it seemed a snip, and renovating my face was far
more important,' she says
Ironically, while the business of facial renovations has taken over their lives. Linda and Mike are still working on
building their dream home in Welney Norfolk. They simply don't
have time to organise the building work.
Linda was delighted with
her facelift. As soon as the scars had healed, she swapped her short,
red haircut for blonde extensions, and her classic suits for her first
pair of leather trousers
'When people look old, they're ignored,
she says I hadn't changed inside, but people attitudes to me changed after
my facelift.
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They
made eye contact and smiled. Before they must have thought I look
ed a hard faced old cow. This is a really shallow world we live in -
and I'm gong to exploit it now that I can.'
Mike loves having a
youthful-looking wife. 'I bask in Linda's reflected glory' he
says proudly
'They
either think he's incredibly rich or
well hung,' shrieks Linda
A few months after her facelift, Linda discovered her surgeon, David Herbert had been dubbed the flying
doctor for the speed with which he operated. He'd left score
s of women in misery from botched surgery
In August 2000 after
being criticised in the House of Commons by MP Anne Clywd, he had his
licence to operate suspended for 12 months by the General Medical Council
He was then suspended for six months in 2001 and has since withdrawn from
medical practice.
He
did a good job on me, but I could have been another statistic and that
frightened me, says Linda
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Worse
still Mr Herbert had offered Linda a job as a consultant. I had a lucky escape she says, I could have been responsible for women deciding to have operations that weren't done
properly. I wanted to help people make an informed choice about what
was best for them. Now I'm like a database of cosmetic sur
gery info.
But
all of Linda's knowledge couldn't persuade Mike to sample surgery. If I
was feeling grumpy, . I'd tell him -your 'face is sagging or 'you've got
too many chins." she admits with a laugh.
Last year Mike had £4,000
worth of cosmetic dentistry work. I needed it. he insists, I never
used to smile because my teeth were such a graveyard now I've lost all my
serf consciousness
Linda and Mike were on a fact-finding mission to Croatia earlier this year, when the surgeon there
suggested Mike could benefit from eye surgery. Much to Linda's amazement, Mike agreed.
I
never, ever thought I'd have surgery, he admits now. I was
very anxious when Linda said she wanted a facelift But I have to admit,
without her new look, nothing we're experiencing now could ever have
happened to us
So is Mike planning to have more surgery?
Linda would like me to. She says i'II
eventually need a facelift. I don't want to make it a habit, but
I'd have more if I felt l needed it. he says
Meanwhile, Linda's
already planning her next plastic surgery holiday - she's off to Holland
with a girlfriend to have cut-price liposuction
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